"Dear Body, It’s Safe Now" — Releasing Trauma & Reconnecting with Yourself
I’ve been thinking a lot about how our bodies hold onto things long after our minds have moved on. Trauma, especially—the kind you didn’t even realize was still inside you until something cracks open, and you feel it. Like… deep in your chest. Or in your throat. Or in your belly. That tightness. That tension. That flinch when someone raises their voice, or a weird heaviness that shows up out of nowhere.
I didn’t always know I had unprocessed trauma in my body. I thought I had moved on. But my body? My nervous system? It remembered. And it kept whispering, then nudging, and sometimes screaming, “Hey… something’s not okay.” And the truth is, I wasn’t okay. Not fully.
It started becoming more clear when I began meditating. Slowing down enough to actually hear my body. Feel it. Be with it. Then, other people started noticing things in me, too—how I’d react to certain situations. The way I’d shut down or get quiet. And instead of judging me, they looked at me with compassion. That cracked something open too. Because I realized... they could see parts of me that I had buried. They felt me even when I couldn’t feel myself.
And I’m still in it. I’m still healing. Still learning how to tell my body, “It’s okay now. You’re safe. You don’t have to protect me anymore. We’re not in that place anymore.” Sometimes I say it out loud. Sometimes I whisper it during a sound bath. Sometimes I cry it out or on a walk. But every time, a little more softens. A little more let’s go.
Here’s what’s helping me reconnect with my body and release what’s been stuck:
Meditation – Sitting with myself, even when it’s uncomfortable. Letting the thoughts and feelings come, and just breathing through them.
EFT Tapping – Literally tapping through emotions and memories, rewiring the response, telling my nervous system we’re safe now.
Sound Baths & breath work – Breath work really works! I just lay there and feel lighter after. I wrote about it a few weeks ago.
Spending time alone – Just being with myself. No distractions. Sometimes lonely, but also deeply necessary.
Crying – Yep. Letting it out. It’s not weakness. It’s medicine.
Walking, working out, moving my body – Trauma needs somewhere to go. Movement gives it an exit.
Nourishing my body – Eating better, resting, stretching, drinking water. Loving my body back into balance.
Loving myself on all levels – Emotionally, spiritually, physically. All of me matters.
Committing to me first – Not in a selfish way, but in a sacred way. I matter. My healing matters.
Some days I feel strong. Other days, I feel like a raw nerve. But every day, I show up for myself a little more. And that, to me, is the real healing. It's not about being "fixed"—it's about being with yourself, fully, as you are, and giving yourself permission to let go.
So if you’re reading this and you’re still carrying something deep inside… just know you’re not alone. And maybe today is the day you gently tell your body:
“It’s safe now. You can exhale.”
Because you are. You really are.
With love,
💛 Me (still healing, still softening, still rising)